It Doesn’t Have to Be All or Nothing

There was a time when I thought "readiness" looked like clear plans and zero fear. Spoiler: I’m still waiting on both.

I had so much going for me in life, but always felt like something was missing.

I fantasized about quitting, moving, writing, changing—anything.

I kept googling things like "how to start over" or "am I too old to chase my dream?"

I found myself envying those who took the leap. Like the musicians on Nashville’s Broadway. The actors who booked regular gigs. The writers who quit their day job.

I talked myself out of things I secretly wanted, thinking that could just never be me. There were took many responsibilities in my life to start chasing dreams now.

I stayed stuck because stuck felt familiar. Until I realized one thing…

It didn’t have to be all or nothing.

I could publish a book or book acting gigs even while working a day job. I didn’t have to not do what I wanted. What I was passionate about, just because it couldn’t pay the bills (right now).

So, I stopped being afraid and found a way to make time for the things I loved. I booked acting gigs on my days off and wrote at the coffee shop before work.

My life started becoming more fulfilled when I realized that I didn’t have to choose. I just had figure out a plan that could get me there.

If even one of these feels like you: you're not lost. You're ready. You’re just scared, and that’s human.

Change starts with noticing what you’re tolerating. Readiness isn’t perfection—it’s awareness. And you, my friend, are so much more ready than you think.

Need a little push? Grab my free, 6-week [guided journal] for daily prompts to move from "maybe someday" to "starting today."

Or if you want stories that make you feel less alone in all this? Any one of the books I’ve written is a love letter to women just like you. All my main characters take a leap of faith into the unknown.